Hello hello, ladies. I’m a relationship coach and author of a best-selling women’s dating program. Today is dedicated to the single most common mistake that women around the world make, unknowingly, that causes men to grow cold and abandon a seemingly perfect romance. This is something you need to be aware of if you want to make sure you’re not pushing your man away without realizing it. So, keep watching and I’ll help you make sure you’re not making this mistake yourself. (As always, if you have questions about anything I talk about in this video, just leave them in the comments below and I’ll get back to you personally as soon as I can.) So, what is this #1 mistake that women make? They fall into something I call the “Overcompensation Cycle”….
I’ll explain fully in a second, but let’s start with a hypothetical scenario. Let’s say you met a great guy 2 months ago, and you’ve been dating since. Things are going really well, and you’ve started hanging out on a daily basis. There’s real sparks and a genuine connection…. he seems really into you, and you feel excited and relieved to have finally found a man that might be ‘husband material’. Wonderful, right? Ok, but here’s where the trouble starts for a lot of women… you and your new guy are spending lots of time together, and of course as a result there’s some bickering and minor arguments that arise. Often it begins with silly things… maybe he shows up 10 minutes late every time you’ve got plans, maybe he leaves his clothes lying on your bedroom floor, or he doesn’t respond to your text messages one night.
And perhaps the most common issue is jealousy… maybe you get upset when your man is out late with his buddies and doesn’t phone you to say goodnight… or maybe you see his phone light up with a text message from another girl and question him about it. You call him out on these issues, some minor drama ensues… nothing catastrophic, you might think at this point. But by now these little arguments, bickering, and moments of jealousy begin to add up…. you’re nagging him about a few different things, which irritates him and he starts enjoys the time you spend together less and less. He might simply grow quiet and say “ok whatever”, or maybe he gets defensive. Most men will say they feel “chained down” at this stage… and this is where they start to grow cold and distant. He begins to show less interest in hanging out, and when you do he often seems distracted or disinterested. This is where the Overcompensation Cycle begins. When you sense your man pulling away, you panic.
This is the natural reaction for most women…. Maybe not a full-blown “oh my god there’s a beehive in my panties” panic attack, but you’re definitely going to start worrying about losing this great guy. Again, the natural instinct for almost all women at this point is to overcompensate for their man’s waning interest by becoming clingy, needing, and controlling. He pulls back further and grows even more distant, so you overcompensate again with even more clinginess and jealousy… and the cycle begins to spiral out of control until you’re left alone wondering how something so perfect could collapse so quickly.
If this sounds even a little bit familiar… if you recognize that your actions and behaviours in past relationships led to the Overcompensation Cycle and ruined your shot with a guy you really liked… then stop what you’re doing and watch the latest video I posted on my website, CoachNorth.com… in it I explain how to use what I call “Love Triggers” on your man that, without him even realizing it, build his attraction for you to the point where he’s basically obsesssed with you and begging to see you and rip your clothes off. Again, watch that new video for free at www.CoachNorth.com to learn about my sneaky Love Triggers and how to use them.
Now, before we wrap this up, there’s one last thing I want to talk about. Sometimes, my coaching clients will come to me in a situation like this, and they’ll be totally confused about why their man is acting this way… it might feel, from your end, that things are still going great. Maybe there weren’t many arguments or moments of jealousy to identify as the cause of his sudden coldness… so, naturally, most women become desperate to figure out why their man is losing interest and pulling away.
Again, many women do something at this point that kick-starts the Overcompensation Cycle… they ask their man about it. They bug him non-stop, looking for an explanation as to why he canceled your dinner date… they pester him about his feelings and try to initiate “serious talks” to sort things out. Worst of all, sometimes women try to convince a man to love her or want to be with her. None of this ever works…. men will feel even more smothered by the neediness and the drama at this point, and they’ll pull away further, causing the cycle to spin out of control until he can’t stand it anymore and decides to abandon ship. I’m guessing you’ve either experienced this type of situation yourself in the past, or one of your girlfriends has done this in a past relationship and ended up on your sofa crying until 2am.
If you recognize the huge mistakes that lead to the Overcompensation Cycle, and you know what to do and say instead, you’ll avoid falling victim yourself and potentially avoid another heartbreak. The best way to do avoid these issues altogether, though, is to build the kind of relationship your man won’t pull away from, even if you do end up nagging, getting jealous, or bugging him about ‘what’s wrong’…. If you build his level of attraction, to the point where he simply can’t imagine being with anyone else… where he’s phoning and texting you throughout the day asking when he can see you again… then you won’t have to worry about this at all. That’s what my “Love Triggers” are designed to do… they’ll make a man fall head-over-heels for you, whether he realizes it or not, and even if he tries to stop it.
For a full how-to video on using these dead simple but extremely powerful Love Triggers, visit www.CoachNorth.com and watch my newest free video right now… just watch even for a few minutes and you’ll learn techniques that will work on literally any man. Anyway, ladies… that about does it for today… please don’t be silly and make this extremely common mistake that has ruined so many promising relationships… watch the video on my site, be on the lookout for signs of the Overcompensation Cycle, and enjoy falling in love without worrying about your “Mr Perfect” losing interest and walking away.
Questions, comments…? Feel free to ask in the comments below, I’ll reply as soon as I can. … love you guys, thanks for coming! Talk to you soon. .
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